Date: 2018-03-09 16:22
The nightmares still occur sometimes, but both Maria and George know how to deal with them. They worked out between them that she would wake him up, and reassure him that he is home, in the US, with her, and that all’s well.
I ve already stated in other threads that I got help for my issues. I m not having issues on my end, it s learning how to deal with him and deciding on whether his behaviour is abusive or a symptom of ptsd.
That sounds like a very tough situation. Not sure what else to say but I hope everything works out for the best for you. 8
Dealing with these symptoms can take up a lot of the survivor's attention. He or she may not be able to focus on the partner. It may be hard to listen carefully and make decisions together with someone else. Partners may come to feel that talking together and working as a team are not possible.
As their partner, encourage the person you care about to continue the same activities that he or she used to enjoy doing, especially those involving other people, such as dancing or playing sports. Let your partner know that you are there to support them, and don't try to force them to take on more than they can handle.
Before he was deployed, he had no problem asking a female classmate to go to a movie. He was a handsome guy, well built, an average student with a great smile. When he returned from battle-torn Iraq seven months later, the picture was different. Very different. His desire to be with others, men or women, was diminished. All he wanted was to be left alone, not to have to put up with too much nonsense, not to be questioned about his motives, not to have to deal with a lot of chicken shit, and certainly not to have to deal with the “dance” that is part of dating.
People who have PTSD are commonly victims of or survivors from a war or many other traumatic events. In general, they are not willing to talk about their experiences because they fear that they might experience the pain associated to those bad memories again. So, don’t force them to talk about their past but encourage them from time to time.
When triggered, people with PTSD may act irrationally, and you should be ready to deal with them. PTSD patients may suffer from nightmares, headache, dry mouth, muscle aches, repetitive motions, blurred vision, nervous tics, emotional withdrawal or even have difficulty in telling what is true and what is imaginary. On a date, your partner may become nervous, get irritated easily or look really anxious. Just don’t judge or get irritated with them instead, be empathetic to your partner and try to distract his or her attention with jokes or chitchat.