Date: 2018-03-08 16:22
Men are under immense cultural pressure to lose their virginity as soon as possible because of how much sexual prowess is tied into masculine identity. The idea of losing one 8767 s virginity 6 as a rite of passage to adulthood is a deeply entrenched one thus, men carry around the idea that you are still just a boy until you 8767 ve managed to actually ejaculate into another person 8767 s vagina, no matter how old you may be physically.
Take the feelings out of finding someone to have sex with, which you seemingly have in bringing up the idea of visiting or using (yeah, this will jumped on I m sure!) an escort, and you re putting your dick in a hole.
On my 85th birthday, I resigned myself to the fact that I d be walking down the path of life alone. If I was wrong then, I m definitely not wrong now. I turned 95 a month ago and I have, without any doubt now, crossed that line. At least I don t have an STD or STI, kids I can t afford or have to go through a breakup or messy divorce. I can still do things I like and fill up my time with them. I just do them by myself.
If you break up with him, then continue to hang around with him as a friend, then you get to enjoy his outgoing, gregarious personality, while still having the opportunity to go out and find someone better. (If the sex is great, then you can suggest being 8775 friends with benefits 8776 instead. Then you can enjoy the sex and his personality without being tied to a commitment with a lousy boyfriend.)
Again, this is all about respecting your partner and communicating. Not some movie scene where the sex just happens spontaneously and everyone just happens to be into the exact thing in that moment and want the exact same stuff and everything works flawlessly and perfectly. Sex really does not happen that way and you really need to start accepting that because you are only going to be disappointed otherwise. Or, what would be even worse, you ll assume that everything s great because you re turned on, and completely oblivious to the pleasure of your partner.
No we can t drop it, because it s the truth. It s based on how attraction dynamics differ between men and women.
To your questions re: socializing. Admittedly I don t do a whole lot of socializing. I m kind of a quiet introverted type who likes to relax after a day at work. I feel more comfortable doing online dating in general. I do meet friends on football Sundays to enjoy the Browns and just catch up. I will do some meetup groups though we haven t met as much lately due to schedules.
I would really advise people to disclose in almost all cases. Cause we can tell. And that s just weird after the fact. Unless you ve done pretty much everything but PinV you re not going to be any good. And not in a new partner kind of way, but in a what is he doing?! way.
You are on a forum where both men and women talk about the issues at hand. Your response to AK6 is not a private message that no one else can comment on. If you don t wish to speak to women, you can choose not to respond to them. If AK6 doesn t want responses from women, he can also choose not to respond to them. But if you don t want responses from them, I don t think you re in the right place.
The good Doctor is right. Being a virgin later in life is not a problem at all. There are people like me out there who are not only understanding, but actively appreciate it.